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The Alpha and the Omega

Since he was about our fathers’ age and his hairline was just starting to recede, we called him ‘uncle’.

Indians will find it perfectly normal that one guy can be an uncle to a hundred odd kids.

There are advantages and disadvantages of doing this depending on which end of the of the bargain you are at.

The uncle gets respect and a right to shout at the kids or be nice to him as he deems fit.

In Indian culture… especially in the good old days, children were supposed to listen to the elders. Even expressing a contrary opinion was considered rude.

So if the uncle gave a tirade about being careful while playing, because the cricket ball went through his grills, you just had to hang your heads down and swallow the whole thing till the uncle got exhausted and chucked the ball out…. no matter it was his son that sent it in in the first place.

No one squealed….no matter what.

But there is the other side of the coin. Once deemed uncle the guy gets family status. So we can go like Uncle….. can you switch your lights on….we can’t see the ball…

One rung above the uncles were the aunties.

Aunties generally had their own kids in our gang (obviously uncles did too but they wouldn’t bother much) and would occasionally indulge us with homemade sweets.

And the most important thing..,, water.

We would target the houses on the ground floor… they could just pass the stuff through the balcony….refilling a glass we would pass around to the fifteen or twenty of us. We weren’t allowed to sip.. we had to pour the stuff down our throats.

No time wasted on climbing up the stairs. There were exceptions of course.

We couldn’t attack the same aunty over and over again… they had their limits..and we didn’t want to be permanently banned by anyone.

And no one wanted to bother with water bottles… you go home to refill them and chances are that would be the end of your play time…,people think kids are innocent but we were master strategists.

In summer, the houses that got most attention were the ones with a refrigerator. We would go ‘Aunty…. thanda pani’….

The rule was stick to the good aunties but bother them in turns.

Too much trouble and the doors would shut. Don’t blame them, in those days there were no purifiers and boiling so much water was a pain.

Then again there were some banned houses.

Our mothers were well informed about which residents didn’t boil their water. How in the world they figured out but these houses were blacklisted.

As for the fridge walls houses the parents had no clue. Even if they did they couldn’t stop us. We were no saints although we pretended to be.

There was a once a week trip reserved for a particular house. It was a pain climbing up to the third floor but it was well worth the effort…chocolates guaranteed!

We had to be extra sweet to the first floorers because that’s where our cricket and lagoori balls or shuttlecocks would land.

A ball lost means a fortnight’s game lost as none of our parents would easily sponsor another.

And is some uncle or aunty got hit by a missile…well we had an unbeatable tactic….everyone on mute mode till the aggression subsides… then everyone goes sorry aunty or sorry uncle till the injured person feels we are being too apologetic.

There were the bad days when window panes cracked and our parents had to cough up the money.

Play was inevitably banned for about a week… till things cooled down.

There were the villains as well…. but very few.

One place we loved to play in was the badminton court…. there a quite a few around…but this one was our favourite…it was wider and had a ledge from which we could jump down.

There was no restraining us and we would shout and whoop in abandon.

On hindsight I understand this must have been daily torture for the ground-floorers……but it didn’t matter to us then.

So there was this uncle who would literally chase us with a stick.

We were much faster than him of course. But we weren’t too fond of him and so our way of getting back was to call him Hitler.

But since Hitler was the most irritating we got back at him by ringing his bell when coming down after our third floor sweets. Then we would wait for him to turn up in his lungi and stick.

Then there was another ground floorer uncle who would glare at us ….no matter his son was part of our team….so he was designated owl. Owl must have been on night shifts and the poor guy was probably being deprived of his daytime napping.

Well to get going on the Alpha and the Omega… there were this couple who didn’t have kids.

No, these are not their nicknames.. they were just uncle and aunty.

What I remember most about them is that they were very loving and their love literally poured out of their window.

Since they didn’t had to spend half their salary on raising their brats, they must have been relatively rich.

Also since they didn’t have kids making noise all the time, they must have been bored…. because they bought a monochrome cube we used to call the idiot box.

And the jackpot for us was that they lived on the ground floor.

From that day on, we played only on that particular court so we could peep straight into the TV once it was switched on.

There were hurdles though. The TV was well inside the living room which was separated by a grill and windows from the balcony.

If the windows were shut, that was the end of show time.

Anyways once Doordarshan relayed its Chaya Geet, we would all jostle for space to see couples dancing around trees singing melodious classics.

Except for the tallest boys, I don’t think anyone could see much and the songs were drowned by our cacophony.

None of that really mattered. We were having the best time of our lives.

Then there was Tabassum aunty interviewing the Bollywood demigods….we were all smitten by the local film industry story.

For this one, the jostling was at its peak!

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Then the grand finale of the week…. the Sunday movie.

Uncle and aunty’s house was transformed into a very cramped cinema hall with entire families camping in….what one would call worse than a railway station.

Most people had a couple of kids on their lap…some bawling away to glory.

We preferred the freedom of standing and gossiping outside…the melodrama on the box didn’t appeal to us at all.

With our boisterousness, it was a matter of time before the windows were shut. Then we went ‘uncle please’, ‘aunty please’ at the top of our voices till the people inside realised that the disturbance was less with the windows open.

Then there was this sharing…no I’m not referring to the gossip that would go on inside the room….the aunties came armed with steel boxes which we impatiently waited for to be opened. Out would come delectable stuff like laddoos and pedas.

The think with Indian idiosyncrasy is you take one sweet and the donor will vigorously offer you the next…and the next…and the next.

It is bad manners to take two but worse if you don’t oblige when you are asked ten times.

So we would wait for the aunties to plead enough of times, praise their creation to the hilt and gobble down the stuff.

There were some outstanding health freak aunties who would come up with some bitter stuff.

Politeness demanded that we accept them and after the necessary ‘verrry tasty aunty’, they were fed to the cats and dogs. Of course even the dogs wouldn’t eat them, but we hadn’t committed a crime by wasting food.

One day all of this came to an abrupt end. It was 1982.

You’re wrong…neither China nor Pakistan attacked us although they entered our territory and fought against us.

It was the Asian games in Delhi’s f the government of India decided it’s citizens needed to watch them…,in colour.

The cause..

So all the bonuses were used to buy Colour TVs.

We were enthralled with the new idiot box spewing out eye candies like swimming and gymnastics.

The old black and white was killed in a day. No one hung outside uncle and auntie’s house any more.

As for uncle and aunty, they stopped watching TV. They would sit in their balcony and watch us play.

And serve us water whenever we asked for it. We stopped going anywhere else for water including to the chocolate aunty in the third floor.

Somehow, even as kids, we sensed their loss and did the best we could.

The Monochrome May have died, but not our bond with aunty and uncle.

Now they are old, and we have outgrown that badminton court, but kids continue to play….and still ask them for water.


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The jack

This is not about the jack of all trades.

Indian roads are known for their potholes and specially in the monsoons, these ugly horrors find their way on the front pages in every newspaper worth its salt.

They are living proof ( I guess that is an inappropriate term as they’re obvious on-living… but they do reduce the lifespan of all manners of vehicles and occasionally of human life).

Anyways after a lot of pothole bashing… some do-good we fills them with pebbles or the municipality does a short-lived hack job.

The thing is this is a perfect recipe for traffic jams.

There are jams caused by vehicles slowing down to limit damage to themselves, or the spines of those within.

Then there are jams caused by vehicles breaking down… the clutch plates giving way… or more often a punctured tyre.

Either way, one out of the two or three lanes is lost and a couple of hours of productivity too.

Then there are times when a biker or his pillion or both are knocked off by the gaping holes and the accident stops the traffic for hours.

It’s the second case this write up is about….the vehicle broken down….with a tyre puncture.

One has to get drenched in the dripping rain, get the spare tyre out ( God help you if you haven’t got that one repaired), and get down and dirty your hands to replace the worthless one.

Heading out to work after that is ruled out unless you have a shower and spare clothes in your office.

But replacing a tyre is easier said than done.

You need that magical piece of equipment called the jack.

Jack is not a common name in India but the word ‘jack’ is.

It is not limited to getting your car back on its feet (I mean…tyres). … but also got working your way out of a mess ( I’m not referring to the sludge on the road).

Some people scratch your car or deflate your tyres and then use their jack to get away with it.

With jack around you have more freedom than the ones who don’t have a jack or choose not to use one.

So jack is your saviour to get yourself to move on.

Also for getting your way, your jack has to be stronger than the other jacks.

And the tragedy is that if your tyre is deflated, you have to have a powerful jack to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Jill apparently doesn’t have a role to play in this horror film.

But I believe Jill exists….maybe she’s frail and weak… … her bucket is heavy….but she’s there…..on firm ground.

Jack may fall and hurt his crown, but Jill will put down that heavy bucket…and not let it spill.

If she tumbled, she will climb again…and fetch that life saving water…. so her people are no longer deprived.

She has a power beyond every power that can destroy all the destructive jacks.

The power of divine intervention.

The power of the occasional good guy who fills the potholes and the power of the pen… the once that put the headlines in the newspapers.

If all the Jills stood up to the Jacks, we wouldn’t need jacks anymore.

PS: Jack and Jill do not represent a particular sex or religion or caste …or class

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Review on Practo …Dr Prabodh Garg

Meticulous ( goes through your entire history) dedicated, sharp, empathetic, humble, updated…. a few adjectives that come to mind

But his biggest asset is that he listens to the patient.

That’s one quality I look for in all my doctors.

Solutions come not just with diagnostics but listening to the patient in detail. Patients don’t come with a written list and often forget symptoms and history.

One of the secrets of his success is taking time and probing to understand the problem.

His treatment is comprehensive and includes guidance on precautionary measures to home remedies

We often look for the doctor with maximum years of experience but being young has its as advantages… ….spending time time researching and not having a rigid mindset….

Experienced doctors with too heavy a patient load are sometimes pressed for time that they cannot update, research or spend enough time with patients.

There are exceptions of course.

Somebody once told me that my paediatrician is very good. My child gets cured in no time. I asked what medicines he prescribed and she didn’t know.

I later found out that there were a lot of antibiotics doled out.

I told her that my paediatrician is even better. He takes his own time to cured kids. The paediatrician happens to be Dr Prabodh’s uncle.

But that’s the thing with Prabodh Garg.

He will not cure you too fast with strong medicines and leave you to deal with side effects later….. which happens sometimes with asthma and pneumonia patients like me.

He has a combination of experience with but open mind and does thorough research..

I’m a very stubborn patient or rather a family of five patients but he puts up with my no -steroids- under -any -circumstances -tantrums.

Another blessing is if you are ill you he will take care of you in his hospital.

I would highly recommend Dr Garg and wish I could add a few more stars.